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Loneliness, A Key To Self Development

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Often, we get loneliness and solitude confused. But in essence, the two are very different aspects of the same physical manifestation. Solitude is by definition, being alone; whereas loneliness is a negative emotional response to solitude.

Being alone is innately uncomfortable. As humans, we are most comfortable in the presence of others. This primordial response goes back to the Dark Ages, when living in groups provided safety and security.

In modern times, we no longer need this social community to survive – yet it is still ingrained in our subconscious. We ALL value love and connection with others.

This need for social interaction and sense of belonging is still an important part of our personal well-being. But in order to inspire individual thought and introspection, one needs to cleave from this paradigm and free up the mental space necessary to focus on the bigger picture and long-term goals. For this moment, it’s okay to forget about the needs of others.

Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean being lonely.

The two are NOT mutually exclusive. Believe it or not, loneliness provides a conduit to self-reflection and enlightenment. Through the process of attaining solitude, you are able to contemplate your own beliefs and ideas, rather than being influenced by the opinions of others. This is invaluable in the quest for self-belief and confidence.

Self-reflection can be the most significant emotional release allowing self-validation and securing your own identity. It can also bolster your aspirations and set aside negativity, going a long way to balancing your life as a whole.

According to Reed Larson, a Professor of Human Development and Family Studies at the University of Illinois, who has studied the effects of solitude on development and long term well-being in teens and adolescents, being alone – although NOT particularly enjoyed – creates positive emotions and less self-reported depression.

Don’t forget to also check out our list of thoughtful introvert quotes about contentment and solitude.

Being Alone: The Role of Social Media and Loneliness

People immersed in contemporary life expect that they will feel lonely if left alone. This expectation is now a cultural assumption. People feel anxious and immediately begin to fidget or reach for a device the minute they are alone in the quest for connection, be it a virtual one.

We are so connected with the world these days via social media, access to emails, and news feeds directly to our smart phones, most find it difficult to disengage with society and truly be alone. But this is where the magic happens.

Disengaging with the information overload provided by modern life gives you the opportunity to open up the thinking processes and spur creative thinking. It can be very valuable and rewarding to be alone with NO interruptions.

It gives you time to think. It releases you of your immediate responsibility to others and allows you the time to focus on YOUR needs. Christopher Long and James Averill advocate that alone time is essential by stating:

The paradigm experience of solitude is a state characterized by disengagement from the immediate demands of other people—a state of reduced social inhibition and increased freedom to select one’s mental and physical activities.”

The human brain is not built to multitask well. However, we do it everyday and thus, essentially dilute the quality and efficiency of our actions. When given time alone, we are able to focus on ONE thing at a time and give it our full attention, without distractions. This is so important, especially when pondering the goals and strategies of life.

By using time alone to set goals and align your subconscious mind towards their achievement, you empower yourself and turn loneliness into meaningful time for self-reflection.

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